IslandGrl called me last night. It was just a bunch of chit chat for the most part. She talked about eating bananas with a spoon and I made fun of her. I mean why go through the trouble of trying to scoop the banana out with a spoon when you can just put it right in your mouth?
There was some "serious" talk though about guys and girls being "just friends." I expressed my feelings about this subject and it sounded like it caught her by surprise. My feelings are basically that if you have real feelings for someone then you can't just settle for being friends. The attraction and emotions will always make things awkward and cause stress in the friendship. I feel it's best to say that you have plenty of friends and don't need any more but to feel free to look me up when you want to be more than friends.
Then she asked me if I felt this way about her. I said that I wasn't at that point yet but I couldn't say I wouldn't be there in the future. I told her that I could tolerate being her friend for now and she said she didn't want me to just tolerate it.
The way I feel is that she didn't tell me that we could only be "just friends." She said that she had feelings for me but she was too busy with hula competition at this point and couldn't give me the time that she felt I deserved. That being the case I don't have a problem with temporarily being friends because I at least can expect to be given a chance at establishign a relationship when she does have time. If that isn't the case then I would really like to know so I can decide if I am willing to accept being "just friends" or if I can't deal with it.
The biggest problem I have with "just friends" is that girls start treating you like you are one of their GIRL friends. They totally overlook the fact that you are a man, and one that is attracted to them. They will call you up and talk to you about the hot guy they saw at the mall, or the guy that asked them out, or the guy that slapped them across the room and kicked the shit out of them. Women seem to think that a guy can just turn off his feelings and forget he has a couple of balls swinging between his legs. I just can't stand that shit. I swear the first time IslandGrl makes the mistake of talking to me about some other guy she'll know i'm serious when I say that I will not be "just a friend" to any girl that I have feelings for.
8:24 a.m. - 2004-09-07
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